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Choose what matters
Select your relationship stage and the decisions that matter now.
The hard question
Get clear before you commit.
One thoughtful question can help you understand each other better than a long discussion about relationships.
Financial securityThe hard question
If one partner provides financially, when should the other partner's security reserve be established?
Fully before marriage
Partly after engagement
Gradually during the first years
Partner's answer is hiddenNo score
Why Clear About Us
Understand each other first. Then decide together.
Money, roles, children, daily life, and boundaries can be hard to discuss directly. Each person answers privately; Clear About Us then shows where expectations align and what deserves a conversation.
It is not a test or a judge. It is a calm structure for an honest conversation before major commitments and costly misunderstandings.
For couples
First, the relationship. Then, the family.
These are two different choices. Select the kind of relationship you want now and the family model you may want later. Then compare your answers privately.
Not sure what fits yet?
A short personal questionnaire can help you explore both directions. No partner or account is required.
Help me decideStep 1
For example: exclusive dating, cohabitation, LAT, or co-parenting.
Step 2
This choice is about future roles, money, children, and decision-making.
No registration. Private links remain active for 7 days.
Next step
How to start the conversation
Anonymous · no registration
Send a low-pressure invitation that explains this is not a test and has no “right” answers.
Ready-to-send invitation
The message and link will open in this language.
Would you take a short private questionnaire with me on Clear About Us? My initial choices are: — relationship format: not selected yet; — future family model: not selected yet. No account, names, or contact details are required. We answer separately and then see what is worth discussing. It is not a test or a judgment of our relationship—just an easier way to understand each other's expectations.https://www.clearaboutus.app/?lang=en
Still deciding?
The model-discovery questionnaire is coming next.
For now, choose “Not sure yet” in either menu. You can still send an anonymous invitation and use the available family-model questionnaires.
How it works
Not a compatibility score. A structure for an honest conversation.
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Answer separately
Neither partner can adapt their answers after seeing the other's response.
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Talk it through
See alignments and differences, then discuss the expectations that matter.
Real-life topics
The things that feel awkward to ask directly
Questions are framed as concrete situations, not an interrogation. The question bank can evolve over time.
1Money and budgeting
2Home and responsibilities
3Personal space
4Children and parenting
5Extended family
6Career and relocation
7Conflict and boundaries
8Plans for the future